The Change People Hate

Self-Portrait 

With change, there will be pushback. To change, one must be willing to be vulnerable, courageous, and ready to face humility. Humility is what most fear, and why most never move forward, for it is FEAR that paralyzes people, even to the point of anger, resentment, for some, even violence.

Where would we be without change? Leadership, or owning a business, requires change, vulnerability, courage, and humility as well. We live in times where most people live in fear and anger, leading them to live a life full of hate and empty hearts. I watch, I observe, and I often wonder what happened to love, dreams, and those happily-ever-afters. As for me, I will survive and I will continue to move forward each day with new hope, new dreams, and new creativity. I will not only survive, I will flourish!

 Self-Portrait 

I don’t think I’ve ever witnessed such hate and such a strong need to be right in people everywhere. The world has certainly changed, but it has been coming for quite some time. Now that it is here, people can’t handle the much-needed change. Change requires us to look into the mirror, and most people are unwilling to do this. They think change is for others, not themselves.  I’ve been writing for years, and I often say that for things to change, they must completely fall apart first, and this is where we are.

I feel the hate in the air on social media, and have lost people who may think differently than I, but it was their choice, not mine. I have been distanced from some for holding different beliefs, and again, not by my choice. I am okay and can cope with different folks of different strokes. I can respect differences. I remind myself that you can’t lose what you never had, so I never really had anyone if they walked away. I have listened to many people who lost friends, and I would say, let them go. Life is too precious, and dreams are to be fulfilled and prosper.  

When you can get along and work along with different people, you become the winner, not the whiner. Winning is much more rewarding. 

Wish and Work To Be Better

If each person in the world would pray to be better and work to be better instead of praying for some fictional perfect leader, then we would see the change.  Change starts within each of us, internally, and I don't see much change around me. I see constant pushback, which is fear, and fear is false evidence appearing real.

I am eternally grateful that I have managed to keep a loving and compassionate heart, for today, that is an incredible task in itself. It should come naturally when we hold God in our hearts. I pray for myself to become a better person, and I pray for better people to come into my life. It starts with me, and it starts with each of you who may be reading this.

I see a man who became our commander-in-chief, once a highly regarded person among the Elite and all walks of life. He took bold measures, allowed himself to become completely vulnerable, putting his own life at risk, and now has become hated by all the people who once loved him for many years. I have compassion and admiration for him, as he could be living his golden years with his family. This inspires me to continue to move forward. I admire him because he is not perfect, and therefore, I can forgive myself and others for not being perfect.  I look up to him, for I know what it’s like to be vulnerable, and while I am on a different level, I feel good about the things in life I have done, whether they were successful or not. For had I not had the courage to step forward, I wouldn’t be where I am today, and I wouldn't have learned anything, nor would I have gained any value from my life lessons. My journey has been challenging, yet fascinating at the same time, and it just keeps getting better as I get better.  

I am aware that some readers may loathe me for admiring someone they hate, but that is okay by me. I don't need anyone's approval to live my life. I have God's approval and focus on that. I am not hating on those who think differently from me. I pray people will change. I am not here on this earth to please anyone other than God, and I follow my heart as it leads me to my purpose. I am learning not to care what others think of me, and I don’t care what others think of the people I admire, look up to, or learn from.  I take the higher road, as I do not harbor hatred for those who believe differently, and in fact, I often celebrate them on my show, in my magazine, or in my photography studio.  I don’t want to leave this world with an empty heart and soul. I can work with different people, celebrate them, and collaborate with them. We don't need to be best friends, but we can have fun and be successful together. 

Bitterness will destroy everything good inside of you, and it will destroy all your infinite possibilities of living the best life you can. It will stunt any growth, creativity, and any chance of attracting love, good people, and abundant opportunities. I do not worship people. I worship God, and people are brought to me through God, whom I can either help, or who can lift me, or love me for who I am.  I want to be awesome, and I want to attract awesome people, along with awesome opportunities.

If you cannot learn to live your life when you don't get your way, then you will never be happy and you will never live your life's purpose. Hate is ugly and will only make your outer self ugly. It will eat you up inside, and your dreams will diminish just as your heart will. Fill your heart with love, and your cup will runneth over. This is a given.

And so, with that said, I will continue to move forward on my journey, work towards my dreams, and help others on their journey, while letting go of those who don’t love me for who I am. I can wait patiently for better people to enter my world, while I work to become better myself.  I love my journey, even though it can be difficult; the rewards are greater than the tough times.

Decide today to look into the mirror before judging others, and then see how you can make a difference by working on yourself first. Change starts with each of us, not with our leaders or mentors, but within us. Change will be uncomfortable at first, and things may seem messy, but in the end, the world is getting better as we become better. It's all about how you perceive the world. Will it be a beautiful day, or will it be a miserable day for you? 

Life is precious, and it will be what we make of it. Spend time with your dreams, your family, or your spouse. Make a difference in someone’s life, and your life will become better. First, start your day with your creator, and HE will give you favor and open doors you could never open. 

Be inspired by the many I have interviewed, lifted, and are following their dreams. Remember this as well: Let others spend time in misery, while you GO BIG or GO HOME!  That's my motto! 

To your success, rock it! 

Tamarah Ellen